Reflection can be a tricky topic, looking back at our past can make us feel uncomfortable, embarrassed or ashamed of how we acted. But this does not define us. We all have things we have done that we wished we hadn’t, said hurtful things to others, and maybe even to ourselves.
Starting this 2020 I wanted to improve and be a better version of myself, not only for me but for others too. Thus, creating a positive and healthy way of living. I want to share with you a story of how a simple gesture kicked things off for me this year and gave me the inspiration to start this blog.
I was sat on the tube in London and a nice stranger paid me a compliment, but not in the way you might be thinking. We had a friendly and motivating conversation and he told me that I was a kind, positive person and that there was something ‘different’ about me, that was refreshing. He said that more people in this world need some of this positivity, which got my creativity thinking hat on and well here we are! Now you may be sitting there thinking but how does this affect me? Well, this story made me think that we all need to work on ourselves and I want to help with helping you create your best life and how you can be better for yourself and others going forwards. To have clear ‘2020’ vision on how to tackle day to day life living in our fast-paced, sometimes puzzling world.
I want to share with you some ways that you can perhaps you can reflect on how you once were and how you can now move into a new decade with a happier, more focused outlook on your reality. You will need some time and space now, ideally alone, with a pen and paper or an online area to write free text.
- Start by writing down a list of 5 things that you have done yourself that you are proud of, be it big or small (disclaimer, I started this and managed to keep going past 5, you are amazing so when that pen hits that paper or your fingers type away at a keyboard you might surprise yourself).
- Once you have written them, look at them and feel how these achievements make you feel, hopefully, they make the corners of your mouth curve upwards and smile 🙂
- Then write down 5 things that you have done that perhaps you are not as proud of, again sit there and reflect as to why you did these actions and what led you there? What could you have changed or done to make the situation better or have a more healthy outcome?
- Now you have reflected on both sides, the ying and the yang, of the actions you have done in the past (past being the keyword) and probably feel that the list of things you were proud of gave you a happy feeling, whereas the not so proud of things didn’t? This is quite normal and healthy to see both sides of things, we cannot sugar coat and brush over these.
- This leads me to the final step. Now write down 5 things that you would like to achieve this year and how you think the experience will make you feel. Some examples of my goals for the year:
- Creative goal – Setting up this blog to connect others and share a platform of positive psychological views, along with holistic practices – This makes me feel like I am paying forward and sharing the love to others.
- Fitness goal – running a 10K and a half marathon – to show that I can test my bodies physical endurance and feel elevated and that with practice and training, anything is achievable- focusing on discipline.
- Courage goal – Solo travelling around South East Asia- To see more of the beautiful world that we live in and to feel more connected and understand different countries cultures and ways of living.
- Independence goal – Moving out from my parents’ home – I feel this will give me a new sense of responsibilities and a way to develop my confidence.
I have written these goals on a whiteboard in my room so I can see these targets daily. It is important to remind ourselves constantly so we don’t lose focus. You can clearly see the person you want to be. The best version of you!
I will be doing more blog posts and vlogs on positive psychology, health and wellbeing topics that you can integrate into your day to day life. Stay tuned…
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Learning without reflection is a waste. Reflection without learning is dangerous. – Confucius