Theories a bore, or do you want more…

Theories can be a bit boring to read through, but I am hoping that this theory will be of great interest to you, it certainly has for me! I have been looking into the PERMA model theory which is frequently used amongst many positive psychologists. Martin Seligman is the founder of the theory and also positive psychology. He believes that the 5 elements in perma can help people to reach their highest potential through this emotional tool. His goal is to create a world where people are achieving and successful. Sounds good to me! How about you?

Further to this, one of my favourite books to read about this is by Niyc Pidgeon, a positive psychologist, who has an amazing 30-day guide to living your happiest life. She uses the PERMA model as a great foundation to help with meaningful change.

So, you say, what is PERMA all about? Well, let’s break it down and talk about it… After each aspect I will give you your challenge and the action I would like you to carry out this week:

P – POSITIVE EMOTIONS – Having feelings of happiness, pleasure and comfort. These positive emotions can help a person flourish in what they put their mind to and change their mindset to serve for their highest good.

ACTION FOR YOU – Make sure that you have to try to always refocus your mindset to seek positive outcomes, even in difficult situations. How can you see the positive? What can you do to make you happy – lift the corners of your mouth and smile! Best remedy 🙂

E – ENGAGEMENT – This looks at the positive character strengths and the psychological connections to a particular activity or cause. This stems down to having a clear passion and goal that you are so focused on and nothing can stop you from achieving this, because when you do it is euphoric.

ACTION FOR YOU – How can you connect on a deep level to something that you believe in? What are do you love and want to achieve. Think back to that inner child who had so many goals and dream jobs had so – tap into that and bring back those passionate feelings! For me, it is training to be at my physically fittest, to develop my spiritual connection and psychological understanding to help others.

R- RELATIONSHIPS – This looks at developing feelings and relationships with people in social settings. Much of our experience as humans revolve around other people and it has been shown that having a social support network can reduce depression, lowers mortality and improves health, such as better self-care and decreased self-harm tendencies.

ACTION FOR YOU – Reach out to your loved ones, your family, friends, co-workers or someone that you feel you can trust. Start to connect with people from a place of love and happiness – too much social media and online forums show negativity so why not share something positive with them, compliment them, do something for someone with expecting something in return, these acts will boost your happiness and theirs – win-win!

M- MEANING- This looks at the sense of purpose and direction in life, being connected to something larger than just your core motivations, purpose and meaning. People who claim that they have more meaningful lives often also report being fairly happy and satisfied with their lives as a whole.

ACTION FOR YOU – Can you do a selfless action? Can you spend some time volunteering? can you donate to your chosen charity? Can you help raise money through fundraising? Can you be more environmentally friendly? There are some many different actions we can do to help improve the lives of others and better this planet. I ask that you try at least one of the above… 🙂 I am working on being more eco-friendly!

A -ACHIEVEMENT – The sense of achievement no doubt has great satisfactions. Achieving your goals from both external recognition and a personal sense of accomplishment is a key driver for happiness.

ACTION FOR YOU – What steps can you take to set yourself a challenge. This can be big or small but try and set yourself a task to do and once it is done, tick this off your list and feel that sense of satisfaction – mine is to improve my running times – pushing yourself is hard but when I see the improved times on the watch I feel ecstatic. Try it yourself and you’ll see the results! It is great.

My challenge to you is to adhere to the PERMA model up and try to evaluate your lifestyle and the choices you make individually. What can you do to improve the situation, how can you use the model in day to day life and work practices? Can you use this to help a friend or family? There are so many ways to use this tool not only to benefit your life but to help others too. 🙂

As always, I believe in you and I am sending you a big hug.

Live your best life and be happy.

Love,

Becca x

“Authentic happiness derives from raising the bar for yourself, not rating yourself against others.”
― Martin E.P. Seligman

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