Fall back in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day! ♥

Happy Valentine’s Day! What better time to do some self-love and care for your wonderful self? For me, this day means sharing our appreciation and love for one another (like we ought to daily), but even more so now. I know that for some people this can be a difficult period, but I want you to know that whatever you are up to tonight, I hope you have a really lovely evening, and remember to reach out to your loved ones for a reminder, should you need it.

Here are 5 of my top ways to love yourself this Valentine’s Day!

  1. Cook a meal! Food is a great way to get your creative juices flowing and to be grateful to have the food that we have. Don’t forget to add the magic ingredient of love to your dish tonight. If you are eating out, you can still be grateful for your yummy dinner and sprinkle the love on top with your salt and pepper.
  2. Dance, sing and let off some steam. Who doesn’t love a good sing-song? Whack on your fave tunes and get moving. Dancing and singing are great ways to express your love and be a bit silly. Why not?
  3. Do a little something loving for someone else, and it doesn’t even need to cost a penny! A message, a smile or holding the door for someone. You will not only feel better about yourself, but that person also feels amazing. Win-win!
  4. Exercise – even if it is just a quick 10 minute YouTube video, a walk outside or a gym session. Every little helps and you’ll feel so much better for it. Tonight I will be doing some self-love yoga ready for my 10K race this Sunday. Exercise stimulates our endorphins and gets the blood pumping to that all-important heart of yours. Pump it!
  5. Take a nice shower or bath and wash away any negativity or bad thoughts (I love using Epsom bath salts for this) and aim to raise your spirits and cleanse your beautiful body!

My Valentine’s Night

Tonight I will be spending my evening cooking a homemade vegetarian curry for my family, with a cherry Bakewell dessert. (So keep your eye out for how it turns out – and the recipe and pictures on Facebook and Instagram, should you wish to have a go yourself!)

I would also like to formally introduce you to my wonderful dog, Lincoln. He is such a loving and caring boy and has offered me lots of cuddles tonight. He would also like to offer you lots of love. He will be featuring in future posts, so stay tuned! Today he has brought you his “Heart Monkey” as a special Valentine’s gift. 🙂

I’d love to know what you have done today or are doing tonight, so share the love by leaving a comment below and on my social media pages to start spreading the trend of #sharethelove

Remember, you got this and together we will help you to live your best life! 😊


Becca x

The more you see, the more you know…

Reflection can be a tricky topic, looking back at our past can make us feel uncomfortable, embarrassed or ashamed of how we acted. But this does not define us. We all have things we have done that we wished we hadn’t, said hurtful things to others, and maybe even to ourselves.

Starting this 2020 I wanted to improve and be a better version of myself, not only for me but for others too. Thus, creating a positive and healthy way of living. I want to share with you a story of how a simple gesture kicked things off for me this year and gave me the inspiration to start this blog.

I was sat on the tube in London and a nice stranger paid me a compliment, but not in the way you might be thinking. We had a friendly and motivating conversation and he told me that I was a kind, positive person and that there was something ‘different’ about me, that was refreshing. He said that more people in this world need some of this positivity, which got my creativity thinking hat on and well here we are! Now you may be sitting there thinking but how does this affect me? Well, this story made me think that we all need to work on ourselves and I want to help with helping you create your best life and how you can be better for yourself and others going forwards. To have clear ‘2020’ vision on how to tackle day to day life living in our fast-paced, sometimes puzzling world.

I want to share with you some ways that you can perhaps you can reflect on how you once were and how you can now move into a new decade with a happier, more focused outlook on your reality. You will need some time and space now, ideally alone, with a pen and paper or an online area to write free text.

  1. Start by writing down a list of 5 things that you have done yourself that you are proud of, be it big or small (disclaimer, I started this and managed to keep going past 5, you are amazing so when that pen hits that paper or your fingers type away at a keyboard you might surprise yourself).
  2. Once you have written them, look at them and feel how these achievements make you feel, hopefully, they make the corners of your mouth curve upwards and smile 🙂
  3. Then write down 5 things that you have done that perhaps you are not as proud of, again sit there and reflect as to why you did these actions and what led you there? What could you have changed or done to make the situation better or have a more healthy outcome?
  4. Now you have reflected on both sides, the ying and the yang, of the actions you have done in the past (past being the keyword) and probably feel that the list of things you were proud of gave you a happy feeling, whereas the not so proud of things didn’t? This is quite normal and healthy to see both sides of things, we cannot sugar coat and brush over these.
  5. This leads me to the final step. Now write down 5 things that you would like to achieve this year and how you think the experience will make you feel. Some examples of my goals for the year:
  • Creative goal – Setting up this blog to connect others and share a platform of positive psychological views, along with holistic practices – This makes me feel like I am paying forward and sharing the love to others.
  • Fitness goal – running a 10K and a half marathon – to show that I can test my bodies physical endurance and feel elevated and that with practice and training, anything is achievable- focusing on discipline.
  • Courage goal – Solo travelling around South East Asia- To see more of the beautiful world that we live in and to feel more connected and understand different countries cultures and ways of living.
  • Independence goal – Moving out from my parents’ home – I feel this will give me a new sense of responsibilities and a way to develop my confidence.
Gili Trawangan, Bali

I have written these goals on a whiteboard in my room so I can see these targets daily. It is important to remind ourselves constantly so we don’t lose focus. You can clearly see the person you want to be. The best version of you!

I will be doing more blog posts and vlogs on positive psychology, health and wellbeing topics that you can integrate into your day to day life. Stay tuned…

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Thank you.


Becca x

Learning without reflection is a waste. Reflection without learning is dangerous. – Confucius